It has happened to everyone, myself included. You’re out working very hard on a specific project. You might be the lead cook at a ministry for homeless people or the lead person in charge of a huge project management assignment. Maybe you are leading a study for disabled people because you yourself were disabled and God has spoken to you about sharing your experience with others in the same position. If you’re a mom or dad, maybe you are in charge of an important area at your child’s school.
So there you are, doing your work, minding your own business. The day could not be better. Then, out of nowhere comes someone else, whose qualifications surpass yours, or maybe you have come to the conclusion that they have no qualifications but they exhibit a certain character with radiance and charm that draws people to them. All of a sudden that seems to infuriate you.
They buzz around you with ideas and suggestions. They have many plans and show great enthusiasm in helping you in your efforts.
You may not be aware but your superior be it God and or man has sent this person to assist you and take on some of your responsibilities.
Your face gets red, your blood boils and you feel like saying: “What the heck. Who is this person and why do they want to take away the little bit that God has given me to administer. I am qualified, I have done this for years and I will not accept help or stupid ideas from them even if they have more experience than me and even if they are showing true charisma for the task at hand. I will not accept an ounce of help. This is my job, my ministry, my study, my restaurant my swimming class etc… It is mine all mine and that’s that.”
Okay I know I made it seem really extreme but unfortunately, this is the dark, ungodly reaction that many of us have experienced in our lifetime way deep down in our hearts. The problem is we refuse to accept that we have thought or are thinking in this way. Yet the truth is that on more than one occasion everyone has felt extreme jealousy and seen someone’s helping hand as competition.
We have a sense of entitlement and believe that if we allow others to participate in helping us, we will lose the praise of men, we will fall behind the scenes and another person will shine instead of us. This angers us and we go back and forth rationalizing with our “sin infested” minds that what we are thinking is correct. Ultimately we push the help that God has sent us away because we run a “one-man show” and there is no room for anyone else.
Unfortunately, this is not what the heart that God desires. This type of attitude only pushes us away from doing God’s work on this earth. It also creates a wall between us and people, which after time damages relationships.
The bible is very clear about this in the following scriptures:
Who among you is wise and understanding? Let him show by his good behavior his deeds in the gentleness of wisdom. But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, do not be arrogant and so lie against the truth. This wisdom is not that which comes down from above, but is earthly, natural, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing. James 3:13-16
Therefore, putting aside all malice and all deceit and hypocrisy and envy and all slander, like newborn babies, long for the pure milk of the word, so that by it you may grow in respect to salvation… 1 Peter 2:1-3
How can we argue with these 2 scriptures? It is very clear. Furthermore; to do the will of the Father as Jesus taught in the New Testament is a work for EVERYONE not just for a few chosen people. I must add however that God does choose certain people at certain times for His plan to be fulfilled but that’s another topic I will discuss in a future post.
If we have received salvation as a gift from God, repented from our sins and allowed Gods Holy Spirit to work in us, then we can’t take on the world by ourselves. That is not what God designed or what He intended.
We, the bride of Christ, also known as the body of believers must work together for the purpose God has given us. We cannot work against each other, being hateful, envious critically destructive or jealous. We are one body and have to work in submission one to another. “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Ephesians 5:21
We respect and love one another under Godly submission because we are called to do the same with God first and then with our fellow brothers and sisters. So if God decides or our manager decides or the director decides to send someone to help us, we must accept it with humility and grace. We may not be happy at first, but that is when we need to kneel down and pray for God to remove any evil thought or demonic wisdom from our brain and our heart.
If we don’t do this on a daily basis we are setting our self up for a fall. If pride, jealousy, anger, envy, deceit, selfish ambition, arrogance, lying and many other sins are not recognized and confessed immediately they begin to build a dangerous cover around our hearts that blocks Gods shining love and grace from entering. It is like when people eat poorly and their arteries get clogged. Once an artery is clogged, the blood can no longer flow freely and the person suffers a heart attack that can be fatal.
When we have sin that we do not confess and we keep it in our hearts and minds, it blocks the flow of Gods precious Holy Spirit from working in us and through us. And in most cases, it leads to a definite death of the soul.
Do you have jealousy or envy right now in your heart?
Cry out to God and ask Him to reveal to you the things or people in your life that are causing this reaction in you. Ask God to remove the jealousy and envy and fill you with His spirit so you can see others as He sees them.
The road to perfection in Christ is not an easy one and we all fall short but He that is in us is greater than he that lives in the world, so we can say with confidence: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!”
Amen and Amen ~~ Mariana ©